How To Manage Staff That You Dislike Personally

While managers typically have the final say in recruitment decisions, they cannot always foresee how a candidate will act once they are hired.

Furthermore, newer leaders are often stuck with the team members who were there before them, even if they don’t get along.

Although employers do have the option to fire staff, doing so should always be left as a last resort as it can bring about a myriad of negative consequences.

The truth is that managers are often forced to work with staff that they don’t particularly like.

While this is not anyone’s choice, these employees can be managed well with these strategies.

Get To Know Them

This may sound like the last thing you want to do, but spending extra time in order to get to know an employee you may not like can be very beneficial.

Individuals bond over things in common, such as interests, hobbies, viewpoints, etc.

By going to lunch or grabbing a drink with your staff and concentrating on learning more about them, you may actually come to find similarities that will make your relationship better.

Furthermore, you may realise that your employee is actually an introvert, and the qualities you took to be rude or dismissive were actually just shyness.

Either way, by trying to find common ground in an effort to get to know your staff, you may find ways to manage them more effectively.

Don’t Isolate Them

It is often natural to try and avoid a person you dislike.

Either consciously or unconsciously, leaders may isolate employees that annoy, anger or frustrate them.

They can altogether avoid them, or simply not allow them as much face-to-face time as other team members.

They tend to provide these workers with less feedback, as they simply don’t want to take the time to oversee their work.

However, ostracising employees you don’t like working with is the worst thing you can do.

It is probable that they already know that you two don’t click, and providing further evidence by avoiding them will only prove this belief, and will make them act out even more.

No matter how hard it is, you must make sure to treat these employees the same as all your other ones, regardless of your personal beliefs.

Provide Feedback

As a manager, it is your duty to effectively lead all of your staff.

If playing nice did not change the behaviour of the staff you are not particularly liking, consider providing feedback.

However, you must be certain that your negative attitude is based on work-related factors, and not on personal ones.

For example, you may be frustrated that the staff is unambitious, comes in late, turns in unfinished work, is rude or is a know-it-all.

These are the items you can address in a private meeting, bringing up how these things disrupt workflow.

If you are rubbed the wrong way because of personal beliefs, such as politics, religion or simply personality, those are things you cannot bring up, and must deal with internally.

There are positive and negatives ways of dealing with employees you may not like.

Instead of letting them go, quitting yourself, yelling or ignoring them, try these helpful suggestions to improve your working relationship.

Thanks again

Mark Williams

Head of Training and Development

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Mark Williams is a learning and development professional, using business psychology and multiple intelligences to create fascinating and quickly-identifiable learning initiatives in the real-world business setting. Mark’s role at MTD is to ensure that our training is leading edge, and works closely with our trainers to develop the best learning experiences for all people on learning programmes. Mark designs and delivers training programmes for businesses both small and large and strives to ensure that MTD’s clients are receiving the very best training, support and services that will really make a difference to their business.

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