Of all the skilled valued in an effective leader, anger isn’t one of them.
It may be hard to control your emotions and stay calm in a situation that makes you want to scream or punch a wall.
However, in the office, you need to keep your hands to yourself and your tongue under control.
There are 5 things you likely didn’t know when it comes to anger management:
Anger Management is Not a One-Time Action
If you found yourself in a heated situation with a colleague last week and managed to remain calm, excusing yourself from the situation instead of blowing your fuse, that is congratulatory.
However, anger management is a process which should always be at the forefront of your mind, not a one-time achievement.
Get in the cycle of taking care of your mind and body to lower cortisol levels and promote inner peace and a positive mood.
This can involve mindfulness and meditation.
Others thrive on yoga.
For yet others it can be intensive exercises that boost endorphins and make them feel good.
Whatever that plan is for you, enforce it to upkeep your calm demeanor.
Stop Seeing Red
If you thought that seeing red when it comes to anger is just an expression, you were wrong!
Turns out that this colour can ignite your anger and make you lose your cool faster than any other colour.
Scientists have found that people were more likely to see a situation as threatening when there was a red background, so remove all that red from your office and replace it with cool blues!
Anger is Not Always Negative
The truth is that anger is not always negative, bad or leads to negative outcomes.
In certain situations, anger can actually lead to something positive!
Innovation and change often comes from dissatisfaction and anger from with status quo.
“Anger, when used constructively is an important vehicle for personal and political change,” according to a source.
Plus, when you let go of the feelings of anger, and act on the need for change, you can use that drive to be more “proactive, invigorated, and driven,” thus improving your creativity and productivity.
Anger is About You, Not About Them
We always tell ourselves that our employees make us furious, our bosses make us miserable and our clients make us want to quit our jobs.
However, when it comes to managing your anger, it’s not about the people around you, it’s really all about you.
This is why some people blow up at certain situations which would simply make another person cringe.
Make sure to analyse your thoughts and behaviours and understand why you get angry at the things you do, and try to change your response.
Senior Management Trainer and Consultant
Originally published: 3 August, 2018